He Said: Friend or Foe?

Everyone has friends that are not so perfect. Do you have that one friend whose attitude needs a little adjustment? I know I do. Fortunately with age and experience, you learn in life to deal with these problems.

I have a friend who always has something negative to say. No matter the subject, this person is not positive. She points out your flaws and does not always offer constructive criticism.

What it takes to end this type of relationship is to slowly remove yourself from that person because you do not want to let that negativity rub off on you. And no one needs extra negativity in their life.

Do you have a friend who is happy one minute and the next minute they are in a bad mood and continuously alternating? I have had those friends as well and there is nothing more annoying! Thank goodness none of my current friends are like that!

Once, a friend of mine was showing the symptoms of bipolarity. She would be in a very enthusiastic mood one day, then they next time I saw her she had a melancholy, dismal attitude. It turns out she was addicted to marijuana (which would explain the cheerful moods), and was expelled from school because she was caught!

Friends like this will eventually eliminate themselves, almost always. To prevent future conflict, if you have anyone that you truly care about, confront and consult the person about their personality "problem."

I know that sounds a little harsh, but no one on Earth is perfect so take your time to go to your friend as a "true friend." Say to that friend, "I would like to talk to you as a concerned friend because I love you. You have been very moody lately, and I was wondering if you would like to talk about any problems that you're having that I don't already know about. And if you do not care to talk, then you know I am available!"

I know it sounds corny, but it really helps. Say this genuinely and with a positive attitude. Mark my words: either the person will change or leave your friendship, which is a win for you either way.

By letting the friend know, he/she will actually understand that they are disturbing their friendships with  their negativity and make a conscious change. You will know that if the person does not care to make any adjustments, then he/she does not care about you as a friend and maybe you guys shouldn't be friends.

Maybe if I would have talked to my marijuana addict ex-friend, she would have changed and not gotten expelled from school.