The Positives and Negatives of the Single Life while in college

            Some feel that being single for too long means something has to be done to change that. Women are often looked at as a figure that needs a relationship in order to truly be happy. Just how long is too long? A year or maybe two without a relationship can weigh on your conscience. The positive of a relationship is the security of knowing that you can always turn to your partner. The negative of not having a relationship is the emotional strain of trying to make things work out. Where does college come into play in all of this? Well, a college or a university is a place where the positives and negatives get all jumbled because we have single people that love the single life and on the other hand, we have the people that are glued to each other at the hip that, we, single people, get jealous of. The aspect of two people being together, especially if the couple is together for a long time is what single people miss. Like the saying goes, "Can't live with ‘em and can't live without ‘em." I think it's safe to say this statement refers to both single people and those in a relationship.

Positive

            The top answer for the benefits of being single and in college is you can walk around campus checking out all the disgustingly hot guys without a guilty conscience. The staring contests, the low down of what you are doing after the party and the constant bumping into someone you have the biggest crush on is too exciting.

            The whole social gossip of being single is fun and gives students time to clear their heads of hard work. Basically, the single life is the way to be; no checking in to see where you are and what you are doing. You have the option as a single person to talk and get to know anyone you find interesting. There are no worries of "how do I end the relationship," no depression of being unhappy with your significant other and certainly no one to argue with.

Negative

            A huge negative about being single in college is definitely having no one to cuddle with during the holidays. Valentine's Day is one of those holidays that make you feel so alone that you start to think "what the hell is wrong with me?"  On Thanksgiving, we like to feed each other turkey and mashed potatoes while sharing the experience with our families close by. Sometimes it's nice not having to worry about looking cute or what that person thinks of me. Stop stressing! Then, there is Christmas, the time for giving and we think "I would love to get something nice for him/her." The whole aspect of being single or in a relationship is complicated and confuses the mind in the process of knowing what it wants.  

            In relationships doing spontaneous things like going to art shows, concerts and food tastings are fun. However, without that security of a relationship we are stuck doing things that would be spontaneous with our best friends that turns out to be something not as memorable as we would like it to be. Would college be more memorable in a relationship? Giving this question a second thought I came up with, it really depends on the person. Those of us that love partying and drinking, the random, hot mess moments are the ones we experience with friends and the ones we remember forever. If you are in a relationship it's always nice to tell others your experiences that you shared and those experiences are things that you can both laugh and enjoy together.