Have you ever been in a situation where you have a “crush” on someone, but don’t know how to approach him or her? Don’t get me wrong, we are all adults and should be more mature in this matter. Sometimes, however, you cannot control what you feel, and when you see this particular person, you feel “butterflies.”
Then you have the problem of over analyzing the situation. “Do you think she likes me too, but too afraid to let me know?” or “I wonder if he ever thinks of me?” and keep thinking about it.
As of now, I have a particular person that I have a “crush” on. It started very innocent, because I wasn’t looking for anything. But after chatting a few times, I became attracted. Also, it is funny how this happens because, like I said, you cannot control how you feel.
Then, I started to feel like this person was very cute, but beautiful to be more accurate, in my opinion. One of my friends told me that I was actually too cute for this person. But I said “No, I see something in him that you don’t see.”
My advice in regards to friends telling you that a crush isn’t for you is to tell them that your crush is what you find attractive and you cannot help that. And if you think that your crush is in approachable range, to go for it. You only live once, so make it a happy one. Also, the suspense is kind of thrilling in a way.
A friend of mine, Naomi (name changed) told me that guys on this campus [UB] try to talk to everybody, meaning that they approach every girl that they find just a little attractive and pursue more than one girl at a time. Naomi says that she may actually be interested in the guy until she finds out that he is also pursuing other girls. “Then I am completely turned off, no matter how cute the guy is,” says Naomi.
What I am trying to teach you from this story, is to NOT pursue EVERY person you find attractive. Find one person special enough for your time, and then take that time to let the person know that you like him/her. Your “crush” will have to respect you for that.
In my case, the person I was telling you about knows that I like him, but still hasn’t let me know how he feels. I guess he is waiting for me to be more upfront with him, or he is not interested in me. Either way, he is the only person that I feel worthy of my pursuance.