She Said…
Congrats! I think you just might be the bravest person to ask us the most awkward question. But, I wouldn’t be doing my job if I didn’t provide you with some sensible advice. Obviously you’re looking for a different experience in your sex life and willing to try new things, kudos to that. But the important thing you need to remember are the other people involved because, let’s be honest, it’s not every day one has an offer like that. There are a couple things to keep in mind. Would both parties be willing to do this? Will the other people involved be comfortable with each other? And say for example you are in a relationship with one of these people-Will this create conflicts in the relationship? If the other parties are as willing and open minded as you are, then asking them to participate in an act like that shouldn’t make you feel uncomfortable and should put some ease on your situation. Best of luck to you buddy-you’ve got your hands full now!
He said…
I feel the only way to ask for someone to participate in a sexual act that requires multiple partners is to be blunt about it. You just have to go out there and ask for what you want. I feel that you just have to put it out there and leave it for them to decide if they want to do it or not. If you are shy or timid about it, the person will feel that it’s a joke or that you aren’t serious about it so they won’t want to put themselves out there. So they would most likely turn you down. If you approach them with confidence and be stern about what you want, then in my eyes you have a much better shot of getting them to do it. There are a few possible turnouts that can happen by taking this approach. One is that the person will be down for it and you get what you want. Another is that the person can be totally against it and then look at you differently because of it, but not necessarily. The other turnout I had in mind that may happen is the person tells you to let them think about it. With that they may say yes, they may say no, or they may avoid you so they won’t have to give you an answer. So if you want someone to join you in a sexual act that requires multiple partners, just ask them. What’s the worse that can happen?